Today's Style Tip: Never wear white to a wedding unless you're the bride

A few weeks ago I watched two movies at home each of which featured a quote by Marianne Williamson from her book, A Return to Love. 


The movies were Coach Carter and Invictus.
Both movies were about getting the best out of people by leading by example and doing your utmost with integrity and honesty.


The quote from these movies was:


"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."


In case you're wondering, this quote has been incorrectly attributed to Nelson Mandela's 1994 inagural address. 


So what's this got to do with fashion? shopping? style?


Plenty.


This post is about the rule: Never wear white to a wedding.


The rule comes from a belief that guests should not detract from the bride by turning up in white.


Girls, every time you have a wedding to attend, do you adhere to this rule?


I certainly dont & I dont think you should either.


Here are four reasons to break this rule, always:


1. This rule is SO outdated, dont you think? Seriously, if Kate Middleton saw fit to put her whole bridal party in white, surely the guests can turn up in white if they please?

Kim K's short lived wedding followed suit as well....

2. After all, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not  to be? 


3. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. 


4. As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.


Know thyself and look your best at all times. 


Dont play down your appearance so that someone else can look better. You are not responsible for another person's look, ever. 


I am not suggesting you turn up as a wedding guest in a white dress equivalent to a wedding dress - that would be inappropriate, but not for the reason that it would take away from the bride per se. It would be inappropriate simply because it would breach the wedding guest dress code and would disrespect the hosts in general. But a wedding guest, a white dress that doesnt scream "I am the bride" is totally appropriate in this day & age. 


Do you agree?


Finally, YOU are only responsible for your own look. See yourself in the best light at all times & make the best of what you have. Always.